Friday, November 15, 2019
What to do when your doubt is winning over confidence
What to do when your doubt is winning over confidence What to do when your doubt is winning over confidence Some days⦠I wonder what this is all for.Sometimes⦠I ignore emails because I donât want to deal.Every once in while I could care less. About my work. About my goals. About things that Iâm insanely passionate about the other 95% of my time.Follow Ladders on Flipboard!Follow Laddersâ magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and more!Here and there I consider giving it all up entirely.I have moments where I wonder if Iâm doing any of this right.I have thoughtsâ¦voicesâ¦that tell me âitâs never going to happen.â I still donât know what the âitâ is.I have mornings I donât want to get out of bed, convinced Iâm wildly behind. So far behind.Iâll be walking to work wondering if my work matters. At least once a week.Occasionally, I see myself from someone elseâs point of view and am sure they think this is all total BS.On certain days I wonder if my future self will be proud. Or Disappointed. The rest of those d ays I know the answer.This doubt goes through my headâ¦a lot. Some weeks it barely crosses my mind. Other weeks itâs all thatâs there. Great things can be happening, and itâs still there. Sh*tty things can be happening, and itâs definitely there.The point is, doubt is real. And no amount of proving it to yourself, or proving it to others, or achieving, or external success, or manifesting is going to make the doubt disappear.We think it will. We think that when we have finally accomplished (fill in the blank), or when we finally have (fill in the blank), or when weâve finally reached (fill in the blank)â¦that weâll be bigger than our doubt. That weâll finally be the person that we want to be. That the voices will go away.Iâm here to tell you, unfortunately, they will not. Doubt is always going to be there. The mind is always going to be running. And no amount of anything will make it go away. Whatâs really a bummer about thatâ¦is that today, what youâre up to right now, experience of this momentâ¦it will never be enough. But you (and me)â" we really, seriously, need to let today be enough.Doubt becomes less powerful when weâre able to step back into the present moment. When we pay attention to today and find something wonderful, something we can appreciate, doubt doesnât have as much power. It becomes a thought instead of the truth. And coming back to appreciating today is the only way to keep yourself from being in a permanent state of holding out for tomorrow.You might also enjoy⦠New neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happy Strangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds 10 lessons from Benjamin Franklinâs daily schedule that will double your productivity The worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs 10 habits of mentally strong people
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